As for the best leaders, the people do not notice their
existence. The next best the people honor and praise. The
next the people fear, and the next the people hate. When the
best leader's work is done, the people say, 'we did it
ourselves!' - Lao Tzu
He who knows does not speak; He who speaks does not
know. He who is truthful is not showy; He who is showy is not
truthful. He who is virtuous does not dispute; He who disputes
is not virtuous. He who is learned is not wise; He who is wise
is not learned. Therefore the sage does not display his own
merits. - Lao Tzu
Kipling on differentiation: The individual has always had to
struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. To be
your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you will be
lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too
high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.